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Saturday, January 28, 2012
Jehovah's Morning Manna
Friday, January 27, 2012
“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.” Colossians 3:12.
An 8 x 8 foot room, seven people, a pile of school books, seven hours. Not the recipe for patience.
My husband suffered a massive stroke last summer. Thus, our family travels three times a week to a rehabilitation hospital an hour and a half from home. The facility graciously lends a small room so that I can keep school going while Mike does seven hours of therapy. While I so appreciate their generosity, the small space with no breather makes for an incredibly long day.
A day of trying to operate the entire school day out of the supplies we can fit in my little cart. A day where children try tune out my discussion with others so they can concentrate on math. A day of balancing keeping little ones busy and older ones up to speed on lessons. A day walls close in and carbon dioxide rises to dangerous levels.
When we began home schooling, I was sure God was incredibly concerned about our children’s education and was calling Mike and me to be His hands in that process. I now know He was focused on my education.
Just as I give my children tests—God uses therapy days to test me. It’s easy to be patient and gentle when we’re home with books handy, space to spread out, and a dozen ways for the children to keep busy once lessons are done. The test comes when I am feeling claustrophobic, tired, and we still have an hour to go. To pass this test, I have to remember and apply the text God assigned for memory. “Tess, as My chosen child, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourself with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.”
I take a deep breath as my daughter whines, “Is it time to go yet?” and pull her to my lap to read another story. Instead of impatiently snapping at two bickering children, I focus on gently reproving. Instead of just aiming to get through the day, I plan afternoon treats to make the day easier for all. In each I ask, “Am I being the kind, compassionate, gentle mom God desires when those traits are needed the most?”
And while I know God is teaching me through these days, I’m also convinced He’s using me as His hands to educate my children. It’s one thing to read God’s word each morning, explaining to my children the importance of obeying God. It’s another for them to see me do it. On the days they know my patience is running out, and they see me pray—ask for patience—and witness God taking over, they learn how to obey themselves. On the days I fail the test, they experience first-hand why God gave this command. Either way, God uses me to teach them.
An 8 x 8 foot room, seven people, a pile of school books, seven hours. The perfect recipe for learning the lessons of God.
Tuesday, January 24, 2012
Could New Education Standards Impact Us Some Day?
Saturday, January 21, 2012
"When will I ever use this?"
“Why do I need this? When will I ever use it?”
Is there a home schooling parent who hasn’t heard those words—generally connected to math?
I recently overheard a conversation at the grocery between a child and her mom on this very subject. Mom’s answer, “I don’t know. Maybe it will help you win on Jeopardy some day.”
There’s a better answer. Most good educators can offer the practical reasons for learning math. But, we home schoolers have a few insights even beyond these.
Math teaches perseverance. Our child struggles to make it through the steps of a complex division problem or to come up with the right strategy for a geometry proof and wonders, loudly, “Why do I have to do this?!! I’m going to be an artist! (writer, missionary, car mechanic).” We can try to come up with some real life situation where knowing the various ways to prove triangles congruent will save her life. We will likely fail. Even if we can imagine the scenario, it won’t assuage our child.
Instead, focus on the fact God wants us to have character that perseveres. Perseverance takes practice. Getting through the geometry proof offers that practice. You might say to your child, "As you stick to getting each step right until you get to the end, you learn how to get to the end of a long, hard project--like getting the details right for your art portraits (rewriting your book for the seventh time, translating a gospel, or tracing the electrical shortage in your client’s car.) You may not use the math for any of this—you will use the character you’ve built while doing math."
Math teaches self-control. The whole perseverance thing—it requires a LOT of self-control. Child must remain in his seat. Child must refrain from complaining in order to concentrate on doing. Child must be able to find a mistake and start again. Child must keep all this going for 30 problems.
To follow God we must have self-control. Self-control enables our children to resist the impulses of selfishness and instead do what’s right even when hard. Only with self-control can our child obey others’ authority, show grace to someone who wronged him, or deny himself to show love. God so wants us to have self-control He gives self-control to us as a means of following His lead. But, we must practice using it. Math offers great practice.
Math shows the complexity of God’s mind. My children love math puzzles. You know—ones like “take any three-digit number whose digits decrease in order, write the same number backward, subtract, and the middle number is always nine.” These fun puzzles show the convoluted ways numbers combine to reveal underlying patterns and connections. Creation reveals the Creator. As we work math puzzles and math problems, they offer insight to the underlying patterns and connections of God’s mind. In a world that often presents God as a mindless dispenser of blessing—math offers a glimmer of the depth, complexity, and perfection of God’s mind.
“Why do I have to learn this?” Home schooling yet again offers some of the best answers. We don’t learn math just to get better at using numbers—though that’s a great goal. We learn math, and everything else, to know God better and to grow to be more like Him. The very complexity of math lets us do this. And who knows—maybe, our child will someday win Jeopardy because they can prove two triangles congruent.
Tess Worrell is married to Mike Worrell and together they enjoy discipling their eight children. They are in their 14th year of home schooling. Tess also writes and speaks to various groups on issues of marriage, parenting, and living as a Godly woman. Tess would love to hear your input. You can contact her at tess@yourfamilymatterstous.com or visit her website: YourFamilyMatterstous.com.
Monday, January 16, 2012
The "Drop Out and Home School" Problem
Saturday, January 14, 2012
The 84,300 Challenge
Wednesday, January 11, 2012
Do you have January-itis?
I remember the first year of our homeschooling journey. We had pulled our daughter out of the public school system at the end of her 6th grade year. We spent the summer making plans for what our homeschool life would be like. The fall was challenging, but exciting as we tried to navigate this brand new world. Christmas came quickly and was a welcome break, we happily put the books aside. Then came January.
January. Cold. Dark. Ugly.
Homeschooling became even more challenging and we found ourselves struggling. Did we make a mistake? Could I really do this every day? Only by the grace of God, we survived and spring finally arrived.
For a time, I brushed off this rough season as just one of the hurdles of our first year of homeschooling. In part, that was true. We did have some adjustments to make with our curriculum choices and we had to learn how to relax.
But when we hit a similar wall the following year I realized that it was more than that.
We had January-itis.
Many moms consider January their favorite time to homeschool, they find the winter season to be quiet and ideal for studying. We weren't feeling it. The shorter days and lack of sunshine affected the mood of our homeschool. The lack of fresh air made for very gloomy days. We were grumpy and tired.
Over time I learned to distinguish between our 'homeschool frustrations' and our 'seasonal frustrations'. The realization that January-itis was lurking in the corner made life easier as we found ways to fight back.
Here are a few easy tips that have worked for us:
- Keep a scented candle lit on your desk.
- Have classical music playing while doing schoolwork. You can also grab a CD of nature's sounds.
- Be willing to put the books aside on those rare January days filled with sunshine.
- Schedule trips to the museum or special performances of the arts.
- Try to be objective with your homeschool frustrations and distinguish what isn't working from what may just be a 'seasonal frustration'.
- When frustrations come and tensions run high, stop and pray.
Here are a few other ideas shared recently on our IAHE Facebook page:
- Debi K: This may seem silly, but I like to keep white Christmas lights up with greenery on the bannister until spring. It feels so homey and brightens up our place. Since we try to stay home as much as possible, I try to make it a place I enjoy.
- Joann B: I have always found the deep winter months to be our best learning months because there is not the pull to be busy outside and no enticement to leave the house unless necessary. And most years there is convention in March to help finish out the year. So I would say, Enjoy the warm house, grab blanket, get everyone curled up on the couch with a good biography or even an encyclopedia and let the learning begin.
- Moe B: We snuggle under blankets to do school work, read more books together and also take a week off in Feb. to just do whatever, sometimes we get a hotel room and go swimming for the weekend or just lay around. It's a nice break. We also keep a sled in the trunk so when we are out driving by a park with nice hills I let them go sledding sort of spur of the moment.
- Jenise P: Florida! Sunshine & fresh air helps our family. We find great condos/homes on VRBO for the same price as a dinky hotel room. We also save money buy making meals, and the beach is free! We also look for educational opportunities as well. The Edison/Ford Winter Home in Ft. Myers is an awesome learning opportunity! Many of Eddison's inventions & museum is there..you could spend days checking that out.
Friday, January 6, 2012
Expert Home Schooling?
“His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness.” 2 Peter 1:3
How do you describe home schooling to others?
Fruitful, close-knit, joyful—when people publicly discuss home schooling, they often focus on the positive. Yet, when speaking privately adjectives like frustrating, overwhelming, and discouraging often enter the conversation.
The IAHE is excited to introduce a new website complete with a blog to encourage and nurture homeschooling parents all along the continuum. For days where your homeschooling endeavors prove fruitful, we want to rejoice with you and encourage your joy. For days when home schooling seems more overwhelming and discouraging, we want to come alongside to grieve with you in what is troublesome and to encourage you through the difficulty—perhaps even offering a tip or insight that will create a better way.
Most often the discouragement comes from comparing our home schooling efforts to families around us. The other family’s five children all won art competitions this year; we can’t even find our drawing pencils. The other family excels at science fairs; our caterpillar died before becoming a monarch. Comparison kills joy.
As this blog begins, please be encouraged by this foundational principle—you are the expert for your children. God says so. When God fashioned you in the womb of your mother, His design included enabling you to disciple your children in all areas of life –including their education
Sure, you can learn from others. Sure, you can grow, adjust, transition to new ways. But, God fashioned you to be the teacher your children need—not your neighbor, not your co-op leader, not the speaker at the convention, not the author of this blog. He has already provided everything you need to train up your children in the way they need to go. 2 Peter 1:3. You simply need to turn to Him in every moment of home schooling and ask Him to fill you with His Spirit to guide and direct your ways. God’s rejoices to answer that prayer.
A fruitful, close-knit, joyful home schooling family comes first and foremost from being the family God designed. Though each home schooling family should share the traits of excellence, faithfulness, and perseverance, God shapes our families to exhibit those traits in very different ways. He designed your family to fit a unique role in bringing about His kingdom. Because your family’s role is unique, your focus, your pattern, and your priorities in home schooling will uniquely tailor to that purpose.
Through this blog, the authors hope to offer tips, insights, and encouragements for your home schooling journey. Please use those that edify your family; toss those that don’t. In everything ask, “God, how can I use this to train my children in Your ways?” As God answers this prayer, may your fruitfulness and joy in your home schooling endeavor increase.
Tess Worrell is married to Mike Worrell and together they enjoy discipling their eight children. They are in their 14th year of home schooling. Tess also writes and speaks to various groups on issues of marriage, parenting, and living as a Godly woman. Tess would love to hear your input. You can contact her at tess@yourfamilymatterstous.com or visit her website: YourFamilyMatterstous.com.